Love Jesus. You won’t survive your life without Him. – Dulce Maria Bosque , Sept. 24, 2014
It’s been two years to the day. Two years since I heard my grandmothers voice, held her in my arms and kissed her beautiful face. It seems like only yesterday we were together laughing about selfies and her lovingly giving me life advice. But as I sit today an reflect on the loss I am thankful. It may sound weird but there is something special that can only be activated within you when you choose to allow loss to grow you and even at your worst push you forward. It’s hard to admit but I am not even a fraction of the person I was two years ago. I have small remnants of that person in my heart but I don’t even know her anymore. Loss propelled me forward, caused me to cling to God in a way I’d never experienced and in the midst of it I found my true self. Looking back now I find that her final words to me make me laugh as if she knew what was going to happen and that I’d need Jesus to survive it.
I am not sure what you’ve lost, if you’re in the midst of loosing something you love, or you’ve lost nothing and somehow you ventured onto this post, but know this:
Loss doesn’t define you, its shapes you.
Hold everything with an open hand, because if you don’t the loss of it will crush you.
Don’t try to understand loss, just try to embrace it; some things in this life you’ll never comprehend until the other side of heaven.
Life is fleeting so stay off your phones and your social media feeds; hold hands more, make eye contact, ask questions. People matter to God, so make people the priority. Don’t spend your life moving so fast and chasing success because all you’ll have at the end are accolades. Spend your days loving God and loving people, because at the end you’ll have left a legacy.
Today I felt helpless. Not in a weird way where I need any encouragement, so no need to message me on Facebook, but helpless enough to shake me a bit and cause me to have serious feels. But, instead of embracing the usual DMV wait time that helplessness brings, I instead walked directly into service and threw my hands up to worship God in the wait. I worshiped God despite the moment and problem and despite my feelings. I worshiped God because He is still God and He wasn’t moved from His throne. So, if loneliness taught me HE is ALWAYS with me, then helpless reminded me that HE is ALWAYS for me. Regardless of what I could or couldn’t do the truth is always that He is working on my behalf.
The crazy and bizarre thing about God is that He allows trials to unearth things within us. He allows heartbreak at times to realign our loves and He allows circumstances to show us His faithfulness. I don’t understand it, and this week I definitely didn’t understand the things that were thrown in my direction. But, I do know He is with me. I do know that He is for me and at the end of all of it He is God and He will be glorified through it all.
Look, I’m not a professional at navigating this I just frequent this journey more than I’d like to admit and I thought perhaps sharing what I’ve learned could perhaps help you venture these roads. Don’t let your feelings not teach you something. Trust your feelings, God gave them to you to help you decipher what He’s unearthing within you.
// Loneliness unearths your lack of dependence on God. As a person who has struggled deeply with depression I’ll just say this. Happiness is not a feeling, it’s a result of spending time with Jesus, so if your lonely or depressed spend more time with Jesus. The loneliness will dissipate in His presence.
// Helplessness unearths your need to control the situation. I find helplessness comes when I am inundated by tasks, when life is moving faster than my cardio can bare and when God is trying to remind me that HE IS IN CONTROL. I like to be in control, so this has been something He’s been walking me through a lot lately.
// Anger is usually a result of a core value being challenged and you need to process which value that is and then allow peace to be your response instead of words or actions. I tend to get angry when my core values are messed with, you know, the values in which you are rooted in? For me they are honor, justice, loyalty…when these get poked my anger sharks usually flare up.
Someone once told me not to trust my feelings, and to trust Jesus instead. Which is great. But I’d like to just say that if you are rooted in Jesus, then you can trust your feelings because your feelings are rooted in Him. So its okay to have feelings, just don’t let them have you.
still after all my research I believed the worst. I know, not the greatest thing to admit. Look, I have my reasons, they are pretty valid as well. I mean, I am part of a generation that is referred to as nomads. Who the crap wants to be a nomad? The millennials came sweeping in with their cute little participation trophies and now they get the title of hero generation?! Come on, heroes? What are they saving us from, their creative processes and their pretentious coffee?
Ha, true story.
Those where my for real thoughts until I was given an entire team of millennials. An entire team of heroes and creative souls that see the world as good. An entire team that longs to love God and people better and who accepts everyone, regardless. In six months I learned more about being a nomad from the hero generation then any nomad ever taught me.
So to all the 35’s and up, we got it all wrong. The problem with the millennials is not the millennials, it’s us. We don’t like our 90’s gear being redone, or the platforms of our lives being replaced with the next best thing. Let’s be honest, the reinvention actually looks way better and they will never be the next best thing if we don’t train them and love them correctly. Its our job as nomads to lead them through this wilderness so they can become the heroes they were meant to be. Heroes who don’t live in their mothers basement and aren’t wondering the proverbial streets playing pokemon all day. You know who I blame that on? I blame it on us for not being secure enough to lead them, and show them what this life should really look like.
Look, It’s not easy. They ALL have so many feelings, and they need explanations for everything!! But instead of rolling our eyes and blaming it on their youth why don’t we get in touch with our feelings and learn to cast vision in such a way that an army of heroes can embrace it and execute with more fire and excellence then we ever could!???
Oh man, this just makes me so intense, and i am not sorry about it, not one bit.
Yes, they have access to things we didn’t and platforms we may never have a chance to stand upon, but they need us to survive it. They need us to show them where the water and rest stops are on this wilderness road. If we don’t step into what we were created for we will have a generation of young people who were meant for greatness but we as the ones who have gone before were too selfish to show them how to become great.
Greatness costs, but helping others discover their greatness will cost even more.
So to all the millennials out there, find someone to speak greatness over you, read your Bible daily, and work hard. At the end of this game of life you will not get a participation trophy, life doesn’t work like that. Also, we don’t understand why you feel so deeply about things, maybe you should sit us down an explain; we are good listeners and just like you we need a buy in.
And finally to my generation that I love so much. Pushing others forward doesn’t mean your life is over, that your doors will never open or that God is done with you. It means that you understand that life is about producing eternal fruit and you’ve finally reached a point in your growth where what you produce can actually impact lives. YOU are just getting started, selflessly lend your shoulders, pray a lot and get ready; if we do this right we will be able to impact the largest generation on the earth.
Side note: to the generation ahead of me, feel free to reach back, you are desperately needed as well.
( puts down her mic, steps of soapbox )