#LessonsFrom35

cue claire danes crying face here ) This year I turned 36 and so the weeks leading up to my birthday I posted the lessons that God unpacked for me and through me during my 35th year. Its not only a way for me to reflect on all I’ve walked though but it marks my year and propels me forward. You can view the actual posts HERE, or check em out below. I look forward to unpacking each of these on the blog in 2018 and I hope what I walked and worked through blesses you. If you want to get a preview of #lessonsfrom36 make sure to follow me on Instagram.  


PARENTHOOD IS FOR EVERYONE The fruit of your life isn’t measured by what you conceive in the flesh but by the kingdom seeds you sow in people. THE FRUIT YOU BARE SHOULD NURTURE KINGDOM PLATFORMS, NOT PERSONAL ONES Intentions, Intentions, Intentions. If you’re watering the soil of your life so that the fruit you grow specifically pushes your name or your title forward, then you’re doing it wrong. Fruit that impacts the kingdom most of the time comes from anonymous trees. HONOR CULTIVATED IN A DROUGHT HAS THE POTENTIAL OF SPROUTING BITTER FRUIT. GUARD YOUR HEART. Not every season will be ideal and full of people who get you, people who love you, or people you want to speak into your life. Guard your heart, every person in your world is teaching you something, even the lessons you don’t want to learn. IF I EVER GOT LOST IN THE WOULD THERE IS A 85% CHANCE I WILL NOT SURVIVE I don’t mean this as some profound Kingdom parallel, I actually mean me and the woods do not jive. Another lesson 35 has taught me is to KNOW YOURSELF and be okay with it! I’m a book reading introvert who loves the A/C and would prefer a museum to rock climbing. The best thing you can do for the Kingdom is cultivate who God has created you to be. True story. [LOSS] WILL STEAL YOUR VISION IF YOU DON’T STOP AND CELEBRATE YOUR [WINS] This has been the biggest year of wins professionally speaking and it’s been the year with some of my biggest losses as well. Don’t let the broken parts of your life blur the amazing, life changing moments and people in your world. Remind yourself daily of where you’re going and how far you’ve come, keep Gods resume fresh on your mind, it’s what propels you forward and keeps your perspective clear! JOY, LIKE ANY FRUIT, NEEDS TO BE SOWN, CULTIVATED AND TENDED TO You may or may not spend your younger years chasing down things, people, jobs, positions or ideal circumstances to be happy. But just in the small chance you do…happiness…Joy, it isn’t a feeling, it’s a fruit of spirit; It’s a product of spending time with your creator. Joy is experienced in the knowing. So stop chasing and start watering the soil God’s given you. [GOOD] SOIL ISNT NECESSARILY [GOD] SOIL This one has been a beast to navigate as not all [GOOD] opportunities are [GOD] opportunities and not every open door should beckon your soul. So pray often & stay diligently aware of where the Holy Spirit is leading you. And remember…God led Jesus into a wilderness and the disciples into a storm. [GOD SOIL] is an opportunity for God to grow you internally, [GOOD SOIL] will grow you externally. Choose wisely. YOUR SUCCESS DOESN’T GROW PEOPLE, HOW YOU NAVIGATE FAILURE DOES I used to think that I’d be influential only after I became this great leader or once i reached a certain mountain top, or a season of success. But I’ve found my failures and how I dust myself off in the aftermath speaks more about the quality of my leadership then my wins. So… 1. Apologize quickly 2. Don’t fear being wrong 3. Be okay with the people you lead being better than you, that after-all is the goal! 4. Pioneer often 5. View success through the right filter; it’s not necessarily winning, success is being able to learn in the process. GET GREAT AT HERE, BECAUSE THERE IS A MYTH Not sure what I thought or where I thought I’d be at this point in my life but it was definitely over “there.” You know “there” – it’s that mythical place where you’re smarter, wiser, skinnier, funnier, possibly more successful. But as I near 36 I realize the THERE I sought is really just an upgraded version of HERE, and I’m already here. So embrace the now! Build for next, but don’t pine for it. Now is what sharpens and builds you, now is what’s great, full of adventure and possibilities. AGE DOESN’T MATURE YOU, BUT STRUGGLE DOES I’ll be 36 in a month, processing the fact the age doesn’t mature us, but struggle, trials, storms absolutely do. Embrace the struggle, it’s what grows you.  ]]>

Just over here with a machete trying to pioneer and stuff…

called are

    • photographers who really KNOW how to use their camera, and they don’t capture for the ‘gram, they capture for the joy
    • filmmakers who don’t just tell stories but they instead become the story, and they are impacted by the story long after it was shared
    • songwriters who can actually write. I’ll leave that one there…
    • artists who don’t blame their lack of success on being misunderstood, because they are in it for the art, not the fame
The truly called don’t care if they aren’t considered creatives because they know being called “a creative” isn’t who they are, creativity is just their talent, their gift to the world. Those who are truly called to this field of creativity, especially in ministry have to be pioneers, people with solutions that are unseen by most. Those that are NOT truly called to the field, like every other fire, a wayward wind of disappointment or what is deemed as success will steal their ember and they will then attempt to find themselves in the next big thing. Why do I share this with you? I don’t know. I’m just writing. I’m just processing. I’m just sharing. I have a firm belief in the vastness of who I am that If i don’t live this life or at least attempt to live it like a machete-wielding, jungle trekking pioneer then those young people I love and lead won’t find the road to true success in my field or a true understanding of the Kingdom.  Not because I am the greatest designer, or Christian but because the craft isn’t what’s important in my field, LISTENING is.
  • Hearing vision when there is none.
  • Hearing encouragement where there is none
  • Hearing God speak into a chaotic situation when everything around you is super loud
  • Hearing the needs of others when you’re lost or tired in a project
Listening is the key to keeping creativity fresh, and its the key to keeping your compass focused on what is truly on trend. Listening isn’t just for those that they call creative. I am also a firm believer that EVERYONE is creative, EVERYONE is called to bring solutions to earthly problems and LISTENING is for EVERYONE. So get good at tuning into what God is doing. Get great at listening to what is really important. You’ll never be a pioneer in your field if you first aren’t a pioneer in His presence.   xo Chari       I am only 36 but in my line of work I am a dinosaur. See, the creative field is like a beacon to the young, the adventurer and sadly, the undecided. What I mean is, you have two types of creatives, the truly called and the truly instagrammed. The truly called are
    • photographers who really KNOW how to use their camera, and they don’t capture for the ‘gram, they capture for the joy
    • filmmakers who don’t just tell stories but they instead become the story, and they are impacted by the story long after it was shared
    • songwriters who can actually write. I’ll leave that one there…
    • artists who don’t blame their lack of success on being misunderstood, because their in it for the art, not the fame
The truly called don’t care if they aren’t considered creatives because they know being called “a creative” isn’t who they are, creativity is just their talent, their gift to the world. Those who are truly called to this field of creativity, especially in ministry have to be pioneers, people with solutions that are unseen by most. Those that are NOT truly called to the field, like every other fire, a wayward wind of dissapointment or what is deamed as success will steal their ember and they will then attempt to find themselves in the next big thing. Why do I share this with you? I don’t know. I’m just writing. I’m just processing. I’m just sharing. I have a firm belief in the vastness of who I am that If i don’t live this life or atleast attempt to live it like a machete-wielding, jungle trekking pioneer then those young people I love and lead won’t find the road to true success in my field or a true understanding of the Kingdom.  Not because I am the greatest designer, or Christian but because the craft isn’t what’s important in my field, LISTENING is.
  • Hearing vision when their is none.
  • Hearing encourgement where there is none
  • Hearing God speak into a chaotic situation when everything around you is super loud
  • Hearing the needs of others when you’re lost or tired in a project
Listening is the key to keeping creativity fresh, and its the key to keeping your compass focused on what is truly on trend. Listening isn’t just for those that they call creative. I am also a firm believer that EVERYONE is creative, EVERYONE is called to bring solutions to earthly problems and LISTENING is for EVERYONE. So get good at tuning into what God is doing. Get great at listening to what is really important. You’ll never be a pioneer in your field if you first aren’t a pioneer in His presence.   xo Chari    ]]>