cue the throwing up sound ) I secretly wished I could just close my eyes and be back in that beautiful office where all I grabbed lunch for my favorite person, gleaned from her wisdom and designed social media graphics. But alas, time always pushes us reluctantly forward, and as usual begins to reveal all things. And its in that moment where you have to be BRAVE enough to STEP UP and IN to what God has for you…even when it’s tough, even when you don’t feel qualified. And that moment for me looked like having the new gig for only a few months and then because God has jokes I was gifted with and entirely new department! My amazing 2 team members merged with another team and there were 9 of us! It was in that moment I put on my best brave face and thought internally, “I don’t want to be a boss! Like, for real Jesus, I never asked for any of this!” When I was young being the boss sounded kind of glamorous. But in real life, at least for me, it was like coming to realization that I was Michael Scott from the Office! And by that I mean, stewarding people brought to the forefront that I was no longer the funny, young one who could get away with saying inappropriate things. And I was pretty certain everyone around me had an inside joke I wasn’t privy to. I won’t lie being the boss was hard, is hard, will always be hard; but being gifted with people is the greatest gift ever! I’ve learned some things along the way that I hope by sharing them that it will encourage you. Even if you’re not the boss yet, you can be eventually; and if you’re not leading people right now you are leading yourself. Regardless of what you oversee, you are meant to steward it well. So these next few posts will be the things I’ve learned, the things I’ve done poorly, and in some form I’ll try to debunk the myths behind what it looks like to be in charge. Oh the myths! There are so many. But for today I’ll reiterate what I said above…every job I had before the dream job prepared me for the dream job. Every customer I had to deal with, every file I had to organize, every diaper I was asked to change. Every bit of it taught me how to treat people, and people after all matter to God. So wherever you find yourself today, know that it’s preparing you for tomorrow. Whatever you are putting your hand to, do it well, do it with a smile and treat people kindly. Be on the look out for Part 2… Chari]]>
It’s okay to be sad. Transition is hard, and not everyone really enjoys change. So whether you’re shifting in your life, job, or relationships take the time to cry / be sad about it. It’s OKAY, God is big enough to hear your complaints & catch your tears. He’s big enough and God enough to accept the fact that we are human and that we might not embrace shifts well. Also, if you and God are truly friends, He looks forward to those conversations. Oh Dang, that’s a good word right there! ( cue the shofar! ) Time doesn’t heal all wounds . Someone told me right after my grandmother died that time heals all wounds. Um, I wanted to punch them in the throat for saying that because I knew that time would never heal that wound and that that loss would always be felt. I have found that the only thing time does is give you space to pull yourself together and not be led by your emotions. So when the reflection of the transition or loss comes flooding back you can handle it with more grace, more maturity. If you’re waiting for time to heal your wound or to help you “find closure” then you’ll be waiting a while; only Jesus heals wounds and closure isn’t found, its accepted. Move On Moving on doesn’t mean moving fast nor does it mean jumping right into the transition with open arms. It means you have put one foot in front of the other and you’re moving forward. Don’t mistake your small steps for not moving on. Your heart and mind will eventually catch up to your feet. Side note: These are in no particular order, I am still working on all of these and it’s not a perfected system, it’s just what works for me. No matter what changes you may be facing know that YOU control the transition, it doesn’t control you xo Chari ]]>
DEVELOPMENT should never be looked at as a stepping stone towards DISCOVERY, instead it should be embraced as an essential chapter preceding DEPLOYMENT.
DISCOVERY is not the goal, DEPLOYMENT is.
I lead a pretty young creative team. Let me clarify, young in age but not in heart or wisdom. On top of all but 1 being in their 20’s they are all incredibly creative and eager and full of feelings. Not bad feels, just lots of feels. They are also my favorite people and I am pretty sure in this season you will hear a lot about them because I tend to talk about what I am currently investing in. That’s what brings me to today’s topic…investing. I love investing in and developing people as much as Oprah loves bread! In 20 years of ministry I have found that developing and pushing others forward is pretty much my favorite thing to do. I’ve been invested in and have seen it done well and I’ve seen it done poorly. I’ve had mentors and I have mentored. I’ve helped develop and I’ve walked through development…I am always walking through some kind of development. So when it comes to the topic of people and development my heart longs to see it done well and done through the filter of LOVE. I can only speak from my experience but investing in people is not a science, nor is it easy. It’s also never really successful if there are agendas on the table or if there is a desired outcome from whoever is being invested in or doing the developing. It has to be spirit-led and with no expectations. Jesus loved and developed because it was ingrained in Him to see people become everything He knew they could be. So HE LOVED THEM through their tax collector tendencies and HE LOVED THEM through their bent towards betrayal. Regardless of if they were caught in the act or hiding in a tree, LOVE was the GOAL, and it was LOVE that developed and pushed them forward. Jesus loves people, and if you invest in others with an agenda your return will be temporal. If you solely invest with LOVE in mind, the return will always be eternal. You can’t fix people, but you can LOVE people. So do that. Just love people, in the end that’s all that matters, and God will always fill the gaps. Make Sense? Chari ]]>