Lessons from 36

cue claire danes crying face here ) This year I figured best to actually remember and post em’. You can view the actual posts HERE, or check em out below. I look forward to unpacking each of these on the blog in 2018 or maybe in my podcast and I hope what I walked and worked through blesses you. If you want to get a preview of #lessonsfrom37 make sure to follow me on Instagram! ____________ Cry Ugly. Talk it out. Dust yourself off. Move on. IN THIS ORDER! Emotions aren’t a bad thing, they are what God gave us to gut check us in situations where we needed to know exactly how we feel about something. Immaturity uses emotions as a map, maturity uses emotions as a compass. It’s a guide, not the all seeing eye. If you find yourself in a situation where your emotions are reining supreme please do the above and work it out! You’re welcome. Wisdom without acceptance love or vision is just a different form of captivity *wisdom from a holocaust survivor Still processing the story told to me today by a holocaust survivor. In tears she recalled being freed to only be left with nothing, no one, and in a country that was now a communist state. It’s making me question what it means to be free, what it truly is in its various forms and how it pertains to us as believers. SO. MUCH. TO. PROCESS. Looking up to heaven, He blessed, gave, and then broke… ( matthew 4:19 ) Early on pastor @kerriweems instilled in me the importance of perceiving [Discovery] as temporary and only the first step of God’s plan for me. She showed me that if I didn’t step into [Development] I would never be truly prepared for [Deployment]. As I read this verse in Matthew I was moved and reminded yet again the importance of the BREAKING, the development. You can’t give away what hasn’t first been blessed and broken… Storms are the catalyst for fresh perspective ( matthew 14:22-23 ) I wonder after reading [Jesus walks on water] why the disciples then all of sudden realized Jesus was the Son of God. Did the lame and blind being healed not give off the, “Son of God” vibe? Did the 5000 He’d JUST fed from peanuts not scream “Messiah!” Makes me wonder how many storms I’ve faced that are really just storms He sent me out into because I missed the greatness of who He is in His everyday miracles. God uses those full of faith, not those full of vision. Culture will tell you that you need vision and context to be successful. I’ve found all you need is Jesus. You don’t need a map to conquer this life when you have a compass that is always pointing heavenward. Don’t mistake NOT YET for NOT ALLOWED Don’t mistake [not yet] for [not allowed]. It’s in those seasons of waiting that impatience (if not checked) will breed false promises. Stay patient, my friends. Wisdom is cultivated in the waiting Waiting in general has such a negative connotation yet the greatest moments of significant maturing are found in the seasons of waiting. “There is POWER in your POSTURE”  – Pastor Elaine Owens In my early years of ministry and life I blamed people, circumstance and everything else for whatever bad situations I stumbled into. Sadly, my response to all of those things was negative and disrespectful, and dishonoring. So as years past I changed my RESPONSE, I became flexible. My defensive and hostile posture was replaced with one rooted in an understanding that God was working in me, through me and for me. If there is power in your posture, then let that posture be in a constant state of surrender. Even when it’s unfair, even when it’s uncomfortable, even when you feel led to defend yourself. Let your posture be surrender, if it was good enough for Jesus it’s good enough for us. Joy can’t be stolen, but it can be given away. Trying moments, people, and seasons have befallen us all. But whether you sustain JOY in the midst has everything to do with you and not the scenario. The only person who can steal your joy is YOU. So be diligent in guarding your heart & perspective, JOY at times is rooted in both. EVOLVE or DIE An outward change of scenery will bring momentary solitude; but an inward change of perspective will grow you. Growth is always the goal.]]>

Follow Well

PODCAST EPISODE 6 and learn how to be a better follower. Your life, your ministry, your job, your relationships all depend on it.]]>


In Episode 5 of the podcast I mentioned that the roots of your life only grow when their being cared for and so in response you guard what you ingest. Then I go on a weird recap on books that I love that YOU MUST READ!  So below are some links to those BOMBS resources! You’re welcome, xo chari  

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through it on on my podcast and I don’t really give lots of context in the epoisode; so, below is the context for those that will inevitably want to know more. These are MY THOUGHTS on infertility, and the link to a series of older posts I’ve written about the topic called MOTHERHOOD and LACK THERE-OF. ( *all links are below ) And yes, I know this is a touchy subject and that many have opinions about it, that is why I felt led to make sure I left NO ROOM for any confusion. So here some thoughts and clarity to what I don’t fully clarify on Episode 003: The one about purpose _______________ I usually by-pass people’s social media rants and posts and NEVER do this. But I have had some convos recently with some dear friends who are walking out the same journey and just want to put this out there for those who are struggling with INFERTILITY and for those that are not but seem to have an opinion. —- Infertility is NOT my battle, neither is barrenness. My battle is with the misconception in our culture that FRUIT of ones life can only be valued by ones ability to reproduce in the flesh. There is no bareness in the KINGDOM, and we are ALL given the mandate to be fruitful and multiply. The world is just broken and so as a result some of us are given the amazing privilege to produce fruit that blooms differently in less than ideal soil. This is not a scarlet letter that shows that we are lacking as women, or that we’ve done something wrong; nor does it mean we haven’t prayed enough, or that we’ve given up on the dream. PLEASE, stop asking us weird questions, or giving advice, or telling us how you had a friend who went through the same thing. Your friend is NOT us, our stories are NOT the same, and we know you mean it as encouraging. I’ll say most of the time It doesn’t encourage us, it just reminds us of peoples perception that we are less than. WHICH WE ARE NOT! So, if you are out there fighting infertility, know that you can take a break as the victory was already won on the cross. Your life and dream of kiddos is valid and awesome but it shouldn’t be your life goal, Jesus should be. If it happens, awesome!!! But if it doesn’t, your life isn’t over, it’s just beginning. Be encouraged, cultivate the soil of your life and tend to the fruit God has placed before you. It’s there, you just have to take off the false cultural, and traditional stereotype filter and see yourself through the eyes of your heavenly Father! You are PERFECT, you are an INTEGRAL an IRREPLACEABLE part of His plan. WALK THAT OUT! — motherhood and lack there-of – Part 1 motherhood and lack there-of  – Part 2 motherhood and lack there-of  – Part 3 motherhood and lack there-of  – Part 4 motherhood and lack there-of  – The Finale   Okay, I am done. Stepping off my soapbox now. xo Chari  ]]>

I Cry In Corners

I cry in corners based on my leadership fails. Somewhere smack dab in the middle of all that God opened the door for me to be on a few podcasts and this burning desire to start one began to nag me. I posted about it, not expecting a lot of feedback, and only god GREAT feedback besides that one freind of mine who has jokes, you know you are! LONG STORY SHORT, my homies at Crtvchurch reached out and kindly partnered with me to house the podcast in their incredible network. So here we are, starting my podcast journey. Crazy, huh!? So I just wanted to put it out there. It will be housed on iTunes, Spotify, Speaker, iHeart, Stitcher, and GooglePlay. So if you feel led, keep me in prayer and be on the look out for the podcast. I’ll add a few links below, make sure subscribe and write a review! Here Goes Nothing!   SUBSCRIBE TO THE PODCAST   Onward!! xo Chari]]>